Tuesday, June 13, 2006

Family Politics

I know i'm moving home, to go to teachers college, and if this was a weekend of what's to come, I swear to god, i'm running away.

We've all got that ONE family member, that creates all the drama, the one that causes shit, and the one that everyone rolls their eyes at, but no one talks about. You know, the one thats all fucked up.

Well imagine that my entire immediate family, both sides *excluding b/f and g/fs* is only 15 people, one aunt and uncle on one side, their three kids. Another aunt and uncle on the other side their 2 kids, my family and my grandparents....Then of course my brother in law and 2 neices makes 18.

In 18 people you wouldnt think that there was someone who caused so much drama, but in all honesty...in the little family that I have...there are THREE. Thats right....three, that like to be the center of attention, talk about the other members of the very small family, and discuss things that really have nothing to do with them. And then, to top it all off, 2 of them suffer depression, one manic, one not. Usually, when they start going off about whatever, I tell them to shut up, I'm not interested. But seeing as i'm the only one who actually says "shut it, i dont give a shit" to their face, people pull me aside to remind me to be nicer.

For example...My cousin broke up with his girlfriend of 6 years a while back. I have one family member who is DEVISTATED About this...and constantly brings his ex us, and still talks about her religiously. So since i'm sick of hearing about this girl, I say so....she HONESTLY says "...they only broke up 16 months ago". I say "16??? Oh my god....sixteen!!!! Do you get that?" This family member ALSO went to therapy over it. I wish I was joking.

And if you can imagine, that family member is the easiest to deal with, compared to the other two....the other one has some fucked up issues, and then the other one is the one who likes to cause shit between everyone else. You know that type...that talks about everyone in the family, says nasty things, but then plays the part of the angel in trying to keep everyone from fighting about what they started.

Actually, i'll admit, they're getting better about not saying shit to me, because i'm the only one who will say to their face "shut up, I dont give a shit"...and then, if I hear that someone has been talking about me, i'll go right to that person and say "So...what have you got to say?" they usually trip over their words, and come back with "Nothing..what are you talking about"...

Im extremely opinionated, and am going to have a hard time keeping my mouth shut for the next year. I think what it comes down to, is that they spend WAY too much time together. My mom and uncle own a business together, my grandma goes and does stuff for them daily, everyone works togetether, or has worked there at some point in life. They see eachother about 5 times a week outside of work, go to dinner on fridays, and hang out together at the pool on sundays all day. I know it doesnt sound like a lot, but I cant express enough how much it is.

I went home thursday my grandparents and aunt were already there when I got there at noon. they stayed all day, and left after dinner. Friday, they were there when I woke up at 10, and stayed ALL DAy as it was my moms birthday, and stayed for dinner, left about 8pm. Saturday they were there all day getting ready for my moms huge party. Sunday I left at 1pm, to go do school registration, but they might have shown up at some point.

I wish it was excessive just for this weekend, but it's not. They REALLY spend that much time together every week. Hence the politics. They all have loads of friends, but all their friends are eachothers friends...and honestly, i'm really dreading moving back. Even though its just for a year....Ive already told my friends that they are going to be my saving grace this coming year...well, them, and of course my martinis.

10 comments:

Scott said...

I would imagine that there will be many many martinis required. I love my family but if I had to spend that much time with them we would have issues for sure.

Hang in there.

Scott

Sexy Suburbanite said...

Wow, you're family is WAY close. I can't imagine. I live over 1,000 miles away from my fam.

Trib said...

I agree with Scott, see if buying fixin's by the case would save you much money.

Princess Pessimism said...

Scott - Drinking is the only thing that helps...that or running away. By the end of this year, i will have already moved out again, or have become a raging alcoholic

S.Subs - Yes, dont remind me...its actually the reason i have lived as far as I could get since I was 18 *minus 2 and a half years after grad, when I lived there and worked before I moved to MA*

Trib - I'll look into it...you can find anything online right? LOL

Lindsey said...

My brother Scott is the only starter of shit in my immediate family. He can have people screaming within a matter of five minutes after walking into a room.

Then I've got some whacked out cousins that start drama and of course, my step-grandmother who likes to tell people that the reason I'm single is b/c I'm a lesbian.

Princess Pessimism said...

Linny - Ugh....ya...i have one of those. I CANT believe your step-grandmother tells everyone you are a lesbian!! I know its not funny, but i laughed...sypmathy laugh though...not funny ha ha laugh

Brother In Law said...

Hey Sis, I feel your pain and thank you for saying the shit I can't because I'm a in-law.

Reading your blog from LA.

Phil said...

You said you had only 3 people in your family who cause drama? I count 4.

berly02 said...

Sounds like a major family overload for you.
But the good news is that I just made up a new rule. If one of your blog buddies is unable to drink (pregnancy, medicine, etc.) then you HAVE to drink double to make up for it.
Just think how fast and blurry the year will be. :)

Princess Pessimism said...

Brother in Law - What are you doing in LA?? Chasing Nelly Furtado again??? Wasnt 5 days in Europe enough? And besides, I just say what everyones thinking...

Phil - I dont cause drama...I call people on it, I cant stand that shit. I tell them if they are to talk about other people, not to talk about it around me. I dont care to hear it.

Berly - LOVE IT!!! You're on, i'll drink your share for the next 9 months...