...Who's just not into Who?...

Okay, Has anyone heard of that book "He's just not that into you"? The logic behind this book is brilliant, but I dont understand how girls are SO swept up in the "how" of everything.

For all of you guys out there who might stumble upon this blog, let me tell you, girls like ANSWERS. They like to know WHY...ALL..THE...TIME!!! Its probably some interior self consciousness, but I swear to you...the more answers we get...the better. I know what you're thinking..."how come I answer the questions, and sometimes, that gets me in MORE Shit?"...well....to be perfectly honest....girls want you to read our minds...we want you to just know what we want to hear, ALL THE TIME.

Okay, and yes, girls are confusing...because, being a girl, I know that sometimes, even I confuse MYSELF. If i'm fighting with "said" boyfriend, then sometimes I might argue just to be right, even if i've completely forgotten what i'm arguing about to begin with.....he might call me on something that I said, which I remember saying, but now, it's completely contradicting what I'm saying at the moment....ugh...relationships are HARD work.

Girls like to analyze, disect, pick everything apart, to make it make sense...to THEM. Oh, and i'll admit, I'm one of them...I analyze everything to certain death...becuase I want it to make sense to me, in the way that I would have said it myself....and by then, it's so misconstrued....me and "said" boyfriend end up fighting because we just dont get eachother.....

A guy and a girl meet. They have sex for 6 days in a row...and then the guy doesnt call for 2 weeks. Girls want to know WHY...Why did he do that to me...and we Fixate on it. We WANT it to make sense to us...because that's not something we do. We develop emotional connections with people a lot faster than guys do, and we want to know if you're just not that into us...why would you have had sex with us for 6 days and then not call for 2 weeks?

Of course, there are SOME girls who this is fine for....but the majority of the female population, it's just not good.

I was in a relationship...Ha...relationship....well...whatever it was, it was something, 8 years of something.....and 6 years of sleeping together. He treated me like shit, he made me feel horrible about myself...he made me feel guilty about everything that happened, even if I KNEW it wasnt my fault....I spent a LOT of time, and a LOOOOOT of money on someone who was really bad for me....but I kept going back. How could he do that to me? How could he treat me so badly, when i'm such a good person? But...i continually went back, becuase I believe in happy endgins...and I was hoping, to GOD, that maybe one day, he'd realize how good I was for him, and how much I did for him...and that he'd appreciate me. But he never did. I spent COUNTLESS hours, talking about this, and pouring my heart out to my friends....who, after 8 years, hated hearing his name....he just kept suckering me back in...andI dont even know how he did it.

Well, I finally managed to detach myself from him, and block him from my messenger....but one day, I had to reinstall MSN and when I did, my block list was not blocked anymore...and there he was. After MONTHS of not talking to him, he jumps all over me and immediately starts telling me all about the things he's been up to, and what he's doing. And for the 10 minutes we actually talked, do you think ONCE he asked me how I was? No, he didnt. he didnt give a shit and it reminded me why I stopped talking to him in the first place....and i'm done asking questions about him....i just dont care anymore.

Girls have come a long way socially. We can do everything that boys can do...everything....jobs, education, political office, whatever...but when it comes to relationships, something inside of us switches, and we're little girls again...we just want to be loved, and taken care of....protected...

I know, in relationshipds, we are different people, boys and girls...but it's nice to be at least on the same page once in a while.....

The advice I can give to boys: Dont be afraid of us, PLEASE try trusting us...we like you as much as you like us...tell us what you think. I'd rather someone tell me that they dont like me, than lead me on for a month and then never call again. Just be honest. We might not like the answer, but in the long run, honesty really is the best policy. If you only want sex, make sure your intentions are clear, from day one....and if the girl is interested in MORE than sex, then you know to end it...but BE honest about it....dont just have sex, because it's there, and then wonder why the girl is hurt that you never called again. Just tell us the TRUTH, no matter how you think we're going to react. I think most girls would appreciate the honesty, no matter how much it sucks.

The advice I can give to girls: If he dumps you, and gets back together, and then dumps you 4 more times, Dont ask "WHY?". "well why did he call me at 4am to have sex if he didnt like me?" "well how come he did this then?" OR "how come he did that then???" You know why, hes just doenst like you as much as you hope he does, you just dont want to admit it to yourself. And, Asking your girlfriends is worse...if YOU dont know "WHY", how are 4 girls discussing it going to figure it out? If you have questions, ASK HIM.....but of course, dont go MENTAL and boil his bunny trying to figure out....give it some time, and then go back...or forget it. If he wont call you for 2 weeks, after you've just had sex for 6 dys in a row, the only question I have is "WHY DO YOU WANT TO BE WITH SOMEONE LIKE THAT ANYWAY???"

Guys need to be honest. Girls need to relax.

*These opinions are mine, and are conclusions i've come to in MY life...feel free to disagree with them

**I understand the irony of calling us girls, but I did that on purpose.

A MIDNIGHT REVELATION: All I want, is to be wanted....REALLY wanted....not when it's just convenient